Kevin Welborn | @theKevinWelborn
I was experiencing “writer’s block” ninety seconds before I wrote this sentence. Every time that I compose an article for The Back Row, I want it to be perfect. I want it to be perfect, not because I am compulsive, but because I want you to think it is the best one ever written. “Shakespearean” I believe was the term used about my last article as reviewed by a prolific writer with unmatched credentials who I cannot quote for the fear of belittling the masses.
Okay, obviously no one has ever considered anything I have ever written to be “Shakespearean.” But, what if someone did? Somewhere on Earth somebody thought that I wrote something so powerful and majestic that they were filled with an overriding impulse to describe my words with such lofty praise!!!
I would be ecstatic. I would never forget it. I would have t-shirts made and a photo of that statement in my wallet next to pictures of my kids. I would run for President and that would be my whole marketing scheme: Kevin Welborn, a Shakespearean talent. Vote Welborn in 2016!
It is human nature to take that type of a compliment and to feel good about it. However, imagine an article that I could write and someone thought that it was horribly infantile, chock full of incoherent garbage. Then what am I to do? The campaign is off and no t-shirts made, for sure.
True story: I received a text on January 25th that said, “Thank you, you have saved my life.” Rarely in the ministry do you receive such confirmation that you are making a difference in someone’s life. Truth be told, I was elated to have been given such a huge compliment. I didn’t tell anyone or make shirts, just the feeling itself was worth it.
Literally, the next text that I received (from a different person) was much less kind and certainly not a compliment. I was hurt, because part of this text was true and I was robbed of basking in the previous text’s glory. According to my phone, there were four minutes between these two texts.
Here is the rub… you cannot let others’ opinions of you determine your happiness. If this is the case, you will experience highs and lows within minutes of each other. It is exhausting. Frustration will set in and you will be paralyzed for fear of negative comments coming your way.
Dean Smith, the legendary North Carolina basketball coach, once said that if you live and die with every game, you’re going to die a lot. If you live and die with people’s opinions of you, you are going to die a lot.
Instead, be able to live your life thankful for compliments from friends, but placing your joy in Jesus. His opinion of you never changes, regardless of your actions. In Him, you have a firm foundation.
So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:17-19)
It is my prayer that we all live our life filled with the fullness of God.
Kevin Welborn is the pastor at Highland Baptist Church in Clovis, NM. He is married and has two daughters. He loves his native Texas, sports, and exploring creation. The most famous person he has ever met is someone you have never heard of. You can contact Kevin on Twitter at @theKevinWelborn.