Aaron Jeffries | @arjeffries1
Let’s talk about the birds and bees and the flowers and the trees and the thing called love.
Ok, now that I have your attention, I’m not really here to embarrass you. I do however want to give a testimony on how I saved myself for marriage.
It is no secret that we live in a sex driven culture. You can’t walk through the mall without sexual images jumping out at you. It has become so bad in this society that children know more about sex, and pregnancy than the average adult. Not to mention Hollywood glorifying abuse with movies like “Fifty Shades of Grey”.
Before we dive in any further, I will say I’m not here to bash anyone or make you feel like a failure. I want to let you know that Jesus loves you and can give you more than what any other person can give you.
Growing up, I didn’t date much. In fact, I stayed home more than went outside. I knew that I wanted to be married and to find the perfect woman - a woman who was pure in heart, loved God more than the air she breathed and would be a great mother to my future children.
When you are teenager, you are hammered with voices telling you get out in the world and have fun. If you’re not having sex with multiple partners, there is apparently something wrong with you. I can remember being asked all the time very off-putting questions like “Did you get any?”, as if sex was something to conquer, equating it to an army taking over of a country.
I was mocked and at times had my own sexuality questioned. Why you ask? Because I was raised to value true love and the promise God gives to those who find a good wife over any temporary enjoyment I might find in the bedroom. I don’t mean to sound like I’m coming down hard on anyone, but this is a very important topic to me.
In 2007, I was very depressed because I had not found a wife. It was then that I started fervently praying for God to send me a Godly woman. I spent many days waiting - I even went out looking because apparently the world believes nothing comes to you. One night I was dreaming, and a beautiful woman dressed in white walked into my front yard. I could not see her face, but there was a glow that lit up the world.
I woke up begging God to send her to me and a year later, in April 2008, my family was having a get together with friends. Sure enough another friend brought a guest. She walked in with a glow and I knew instantly the woman I prayed for was here. She and I dated for three months, and then I proposed on my 23rd birthday. We were married on October 17th, 2008.
She has been more than I prayed for! God blessed us with this gift of purity together. I want you to know if you have vowed to keep yourself till marriage, it will not be easy. In fact, it will be a battle in your mind daily. However it is possible to overcome sexual desires. God gave us this desire but He never intended for it become perverted.
I want to end with this excerpt from GotQuestions.org:
With God, purity is possible! Praise God that my wife and I can stand as a testament to it.
Aaron Jeffries lives in the wild and wonderful state of West Virginia. He is married to his beautiful wife Kristen, and has been blessed with two amazing little boys. Join him as he writes about life and our amazing Heavenly Father. He can be reached on Twitter at @arjeffries1.
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