Megan Oaks | @MegancOaks
“Humans will hurt you, humans will lie to you, humans will let you down” -Olivia Pope; Scandal
While binge watching our new favorite show, as we so often do, my husband and I listened as Olivia gave some excellent advice to one of her “gladiators”. While this show, like most shows now televised, is not at all Biblically sound, I always love when I can pick out those little snippets of truth. I was just waiting for her to say “but God will not.” That of course would have been insane and caused a serious scandal in the television world though.
If you look up human in Webster’s dictionary you’ll see one of the synonyms listed is “mortal”. If you look up God in Webster’s, you’ll note one of the synonyms listed is “immortal”. I think we all will agree that while it is our aim to live a “Christ-like” life, we as humans are just simply not equipped with the same characteristics of God. Then, if we know that, if we can acknowledge and agree with this truth, why do we take such offense when our expectations of other humans are deflated? Are we expecting our friends and family and even strangers to immolate these Godly characteristics?
Let’s look into this a little deeper, by listing some of the characteristics of God.
With just those four characteristics of God, it is easy to not only understand why we adore our Savior with such conviction; but it is equally as easy to see that we as humans are not capable to extend such a level of mercy, grace, faithfulness and love upon those around us. Regardless of how much we genuinely want to. You see, it’s not that we do not care. Or that we do not want to, but rather that those emotions are reserved for the Lord to extend to his children. If every Joe Schmo we encountered gave us the unfailing, unending, unconditional love and mercy of the Lord; then would our appreciation of the Lord’s love for us diminish? To receive such special gifts from anyone and everyone would devalue our need for a Savior and the need for the cross.
Do not misunderstand me. I extend mercy toward my husband every time he refuses to lift the toilet seat and therefore giving me the most unpleasant of surprises in the middle of the night. I attempt with great valor to be gracious to the waitress who has taken 45 minutes to refill my cup, understanding that even though we are the only patrons in the restaurant, maybe her chaos of the day extends far past the borders of the restaurant walls. I love my children more than I ever truly thought I was capable of loving, but even after my patience is worn, the day is done and I can still hear fighting from the other room, I catch myself eagerly dreaming of what solace I will receive when they are all off in college. They will go to college! You see, even with the greatest of efforts on our part, we will never truly love like our Father does.
I say this to encourage you, not to make you feel inadequate. I hope that with this realization, we can begin to understand that even though our parents or spouses or even the best of friends have let us down; it is not for their lack of love, mercy, grace or faithfulness to us. It is merely because we were created human. Imperfect. Sinful. Even as believers, born again and trusting fully in the Lord as our guide; we are not perfect. Our emotions can overtake us. Our sin can have more control than we’re willing to be honest about.
However, if we can take just one step toward the honesty of our own humanity, than I dare say we would be taking a step toward genuine forgiveness toward those who have hurt us; those who have exuded less than Christ-like affection toward us. Even more so, we are probably taking an even greater step toward the hard fact that we ourselves have afflicted those we love by allowing our human nature to get the best of us at times.
May we all begin to understand that the pain of this life is inevitable. It is not an attack against our personal well being, but rather a reminder of why we all need a Savior and why every day is a choice to walk in His love. Sometimes, a choice we must choose to make, not just day by day, but minute by minute.
Megan Oaks is Maryland born, North Carolina raised, currently residing in New Mexico and looking forward to retirement in East Tennessee. Married to her Earthly hero, an Airman in the Air Force and mother to their three "acorns". Recently enrolled in her first college semester at 30 years old and striving toward a degree in Rad Tech. In her spare time, which is few and far between, Megan enjoys photography, reading, following the Baltimore Ravens and reality television. Air Force wife, mother to three, and daughter of the most high King. You can contact her via Twitter at @megancoaks.