Jeff Weddle | @anti_itcher
Compliments make Christians uncomfortable, especially compliments at church. We know church is about Jesus and glorifying Him, therefore, this is no time to compliment a person. How lowly. How Pharisaical. How worldly.
Therefore, the Body of Christ can be one of the least complimentary and most unsupportive groups of people in the world. Praise God!
However, there’s a chance Christians don’t compliment in church enough because you’re not trying hard enough to get compliments. It’s a possibility. Here are several pointers in getting a compliment-filled Sunday morning:
1) Play Music Badly
This doesn’t sound right, but trust me, it works. If you can sing or play an instrument, do some sort of musical performance in church and completely mess it up. If you play well, people won’t want to “give you a big head,” so they won’t compliment you. But if you mess up royally, the compliments will pour in. Sure, they’re all lying, but you’ll rake in the compliments.
2) Dress Nicely
People don’t dress up for church anymore. Most people look like they just rolled out of bed. In most churches, if a guy wears a tie, or a woman wears a dress, compliments will come. Either that or they will wonder who died.
3) Don’t be the Pastor
Seriously, everyone gets compliments but the pastor. Sure he just poured his heart out, delivering the sermon he spent hours preparing that no one seemed to hear or care about, but “hey, who made this coffee that took two minutes to make? It’s delightful! They should get a raise.”
4) Keep a Screaming Kid in Church
The best way to get attention in church is to bring your kids and let them carry on as if they were at the circus. Act is if their noise is inaudible to you. Pretend as though you don’t even see them throwing toys at old people. Because of grace and stuff, no one will tell you to take your creepy kid to the nursery. Instead grace will show itself by complimenting your kid for his “lively spirit” and “giving the pastor a run for his money.”
5) Bring Doughnuts
This needs no elaboration.
6) Talk about Your Struggle (Even if You Don't Have One)
Christians like to hear that other Christians are blowing it. We’re all about honesty, and transparency, and confessing. Nothing makes Christians feel better about themselves than bucking up a struggling brother or sister. Admit your faults (or make some up), then sit back and let the compliments come in. Just ignore the fact that the complimenting-Christians are just relieved someone is doing it worse than they are.
7) Compliment Others
Do unto others as you would have done unto you. If you tell someone at church that you like their coat, they will inevitably compliment your shirt or something else. Compliment like crazy, and then watch as the compliments fly back in return, like some kind of kindness ping pong match. As long as you don’t mind breaking the “thou shalt not bear false witness” command, compliments are yours for the taking.
People need compliments. I need compliments. You need compliments. So, let me go first: You did a nice job reading this article, and I like your shoes.
Jeff Weddle is the husband of one wife and father of three kids. He is pastor of Rhinelander Bible Church in Rhinelander, WI. He enjoys reading, writing, guitaring, and although he does not enjoy running, he tends to do that a lot, too. You can contact him on Twitter at @anti_itcher or at his blog: AntiItchMeditation.wordpress.com.